I have a DSD whi is 12 who lives with us. Most of the time she's fine but when her dad is not here she CLINGS to me like mad. For instance, one morning her dad was at work, I was sat having my breakfast and she sat talking to me ... fair enough .... 10 minutes later I went to wash up ... she followed me and carried on talking to me in the kitchen ... I was polite ... but I almost burnt her with a hot pan as she was stood right behind me at one point so for my own sanity I went to sit outside with a coffee ... she followed me ... sat beside me and carried on talking to me. I remained polite, engadged conversation ... I then decided to clean the guinea pigs out, she followed me, right up my back, I couldn't move without falling over her.
I did get annoyed at this point and told her I was going upstairs to do my hair. My bedroom is my sanctury ... so I'm up there, nice and peaceful, 5 minutes later DSD comes in, sprawls across the bed and carries on talking to me.
Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against her but I NEED space, I told DP this when I moved in and he assured me I would get it and I do from him, just not his DSD and I feel trapped because I know I can't tell her to back off without hurting her feelings.
Tonight, another example. Her dad goes out to tesco ... DSD sits next to me, talking to me. I ask her about school, about friends, ask her if she needs any help with homework etc etc ... almost an hour later I tell her I need to catch up on some work so I sit at the pc. She stands behind me and continues to talk to me. I can't concentrate ... I go to sit in the garden, she follows me. I give up, go to the bathroom, sit down on the bog and I hear a tapping at the door. DSD is there and wants to talk to me through the door!!! I tell her at this point that if she gives me a few minutes, I will be back with her and she can wait for me in the living room ... but no, she camps outside the bathroom door until I come out.
It's driving me NUTS.
How do I handle this without coming across like the evil stepmother?
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locqd · 05/06/2009 00:01
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