I am a separated mum of 2 boys and work p/t (well actually f/t but they call it p/t) as an academic a long way from London where I live.
Under pressure from H who threatened me with immediate divorce and a nasty residence battle if I took the kids to live with me nearer work, I have agreed for this year to stay in London and have the kids 3 days 1 week/4 days the next week as H (who has a nanny and works from 8-7 every day almost) insisted on absolute 50:50 custody. I was the one to move out of the house as he refused to (mindful of his residence rights).
We are in counselling but who knows if we will get back together and if so what we will do re. where to live etc. I am the one at fault in the separation as had affair with another man. The marriage had been in trouble since the birth of ds1 but that is not an excuse of course
I was wondering if there are other mothers out there who find themselves separated from their children for large periods of the week and how they are dealing with it. I find it very hard to deal as a 'single mum' full on for half the week ( I do have nanny from 8-6 on weekdays but still find it hard, am no earth mother!!) and then to be totally without them for the other half.
When they're gone my flat echoes horribly. I find it hard to take my work seriously or to get over the idea that somehow I am losing them or damaging them by not being there.
Anyone else feeling the same or any tips on how I can be more positive about this for them and me?
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Anyone else finding it hard to deal with shared residence and separation from children?
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servalanempressoftheuniverse · 03/06/2009 15:27
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