I have been married ten months. husband hasnt got a child of his own whereas i am 43 and have two. hes great with them. we have had this discussion many times with him seemingly acepting we wouldnt have children of our own. this was mostly because i was too scared at my age.he had a very bad situation a few years back when he thought he was a dad for two years but then found out that he wasnt the dad and that was verydifficult.
my husband now left and even though i said i would have one..partly for him but also for me... i wouldnt bring a child into this world unless i wanted one too...he said if we tried but were not successful he would leave me anyway cos all he wants is a child.i think he has a very low self esteem and what he said wasnt rational cos no one can guarantee a child
i genuinely thought we had a great relationship. lots of love and laughter. i have since found out he took a girl from work to the cinema a few days after he left but i am reasonably confident it wasnt anything but then again i could just be a mug. now i guess i lack trust.
my counsellor says i have to keep strong and be open to him and he replies to my texts , comes out with us and still wants to have his wicked way but i am not getting any reassurance of his affections for me.not really. he never texts me. spend alot of time driving round to old haunts and working. he cries alot and tells others he loves me
just wondered if anyone can shed some light onto this behaviour or has been in a similar situation
thanks
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hazelmary · 01/06/2009 21:21
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