Dh and I have different spending styles and priorities so we have worked round this by having a joint account where all our money goes into for most things, and then personal allowance for items such as clothes, computer games (him) and sundry items.
We are reasonably well off due primarily to DH being a contractor, but of course it is not secure and he isn't on a long term contract although he has been there for about 18months.
Anyway long story but last Nov my car was on its last legs, DH was keen to get a sporty model and after much soul searching and Mumsnet posting I said he could get something sporty and I'd drive the family car. Instead we went for a sensible inexpensive option for me, as we had just bought one car I proposed and he agreed that we wouldn't discuss cars again until end of this year.
Fast forward to this weekend, DH gets an afternoon off work, was meant to go walking instead its raining so goes to fancy dealership looks at cars and then badgers me about it until I say he can do whatever he thinks is best provided that a) it doesn't take us off our target to pay off mortgage in 5 years and b) I don't want to hear it mentioned as a reason why I can't cut down on hours at work as have been having some health issues and want to spend a bit more time with DS.
There have been other instances of, in my view, wasteful spending, such as buying a completely new computer so he can play a new computer game. We don't have any debts other than the mortgage, other than these things we don't live an extravagent lifestyle. I hate being the moany one saying No all the time, but it frustrates me because I feel they are extravagances and I'd rather we focused on our key spending priorities rather than getting distracted by bright shiny expensive things. However I love DH and want him to be happy, so should I just suck it up ?
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Are financial compromises always required as part of a relationship ?
rookiemater · 18/05/2009 09:02
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