I'm really sick to death of my mother ... she is toxic! Negative, emotionally blackmailing, depressed.. the list is endless! She has no reason to be or do any of these.. she could have a great life and a positive outlook if she chose!
I do have to say she is a better grandparent than she ever was a mother but she undermines me with MY children ALL of the time and always in front of them! To the point where they play up and want to stay with her when it's time for them to come away.. she encourages it and makes it worse for me.. where I end up shouting and getting cross with them. I have tried biting my tongue and ignoring and the other extreme of telling her that they are MY children and MY rules and not to tell ME what to do with them!... but to NO avail !! It all seems to fall on deaf ears.
I try to keep contact to a minimum but being a single parent and only having her to rely on as babysitter if I want some kind of social life makes things very difficult.
I don't want the children to be exposed to all this negativity or them thinking that she is a better person than 'bad cross mummy'!
My 4 year old told me today that she wanted to 'live' with her granny because "she lets me do what I want to do!".......... I was really upset... I know dd is only young and probably doesn't understand how hurtful that was but it was also in front of my mother and I could feel her feeding off this very comment!
I really am at a loss as to how to handle her and the situation..... roll on the time I find a knight in shining armour who can take me miles and miles and miles and miles away from this crap!
Any advice please?
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talie101 · 29/04/2009 19:09
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