Hi, have namechanged for this and if you're reading this you'll understand why.
I am hoping someone can give me advice Was you with one of my friends last night who told me he is H I V + (sorry for the spaces, I am trying to make this unsearchable). My reaction was that I cried unstoppably and hugged him for ages. We'd both had a drink (or ten ) and I asked him some questions and we talked about it. He got extremely upset too and I am so worried my reaction has made him feel worse. If I had been sober I would have been able to control myself a bit better.
In the cold light of sobriety I really and honestly don't know how I can help him? What do I say? I am terrified for him and completely devastated but also am aware that my feelings are nothing compared to what he must be going thru. I have text hm a couple of times today just to let him know I am there for him and I will call him in the coming days He is a bit of a loner and sees himself as a burden and I know he might try to push me away and pretend that he is completely fine but I can't stand the thought of him going through this on his own
I don't know what I am asking here, I think I just wonder if anyone has experience of this and any advice on how I can best support my dear friend?
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Advice please for my dear friend? :-(
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advicesomeone · 25/04/2009 17:38
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