Man, this is scary! First time posting a question and I feel all shaky...
Anyway, I had resigned myself to being childfree because I thought I was too old to have children, and was trying to look on the bright side about it. Yeah, I know, if I'd read Mumsnet first I'd have realised plenty of women have babies even later in life! It wasn't too bad, as we live in a lovely part of our city with plenty of things to do, and I am studying a subject that I love (and have been accepted to do a Master's degree now, so would be continuing with it if I didn't have this dilemma). Found out just over a year ago that I was pregnant, and decided to terminate the pregnancy because I was in the 3rd year of 4 of uni as a VERY mature student (please don't judge us, we were heartbroken and I don't think I'll ever get over it). Now I'm sitting finals in a few weeks - but all I can think about is trying to get pregnant again. It is not helping me to revise!
We had a brief conversation about it a few months ago, and found out OH doesn't feel ready, and in addition is terrified that he wouldn't be able to handle it all. I, however, know he can/will cope, and its only because he has had little exposure to children that makes him feel like this. I think he'd be a wonderful dad - he's patient and kind, he loves to be light-hearted and playful, he's steady and has great relationships with his family and friends (I know there's more to it than that, but you get the idea hopefully). He was wonderful when I had the termination, which was very painful and frightening for me - although he was obviously scared, he was strong and supportive and looked after me both physically and mentally.
So, patient readers, what should I do? Can I/should I talk him round? Resign myself again and get on with enjoying our lives without children? Wait and TTC in a few years, when it is going to be even more dangerous than it is now? Stick pins through the condoms (only joking!)?
Thank you in advance for any replies, if you have managed to struggle through this badly-writted question - I would really appreciate some sensible advice here.
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I'm 37 and want to start TTC now, but OH doesn't feel ready - advice please?
Geekylass · 08/04/2009 20:05
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