I was wondering if anyone had any advise they could give me on coping with a very over bearing mother?
My relationship with my mum has always been difficult (since I learnt to talk!) and we both have very strong personalities. I think the problem stems from the fact that she considers me and my older sibling to be 'hers' and therefore expects us to do as she pleases. She uses any kind of emotional blackmail to get me to do or go to things I have no interest in and if you don't do as she wishes you get silent treatment/cold shoulder for so long that you forget how it started or you get reminded that you didn't do said thing for years after the event.
I also have another underlying problem with her in that she much prefers my older sibling to me. She has admitted that she prefers my sibling which has always upset me - its always been very obvious and I cannot forgive her for making me so aware of it as a child. Other relatives also noticed it (Grandparents and close friends of my mothers).
Sorry to go on but what I would like to be able to do is have a way of not being bothered by her - not being manipulated into doing things I don't want to do - but still seeing her as I love her and my dad and they love my son very much. Has anyone any advise? Many thanks.
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Abi12 · 08/04/2009 16:37
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