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Can't get over what happened at weekend

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BlackPrimera · 07/04/2009 19:36

On saturday night, I went out with my SIL and a few of her friends for a drink. It was the first time I'd been out with her like that and we stopped off in a few pubs before 'settling' in the final one so we'd all had a bit to drink. I was not drunk though.

Later on in the night I was chatting to one of the girls when we noticed that SIL had become involved in a row with some other women. I was concerned, the other girls were laughing and saying "here she goes again" as if this kind of thing happens all the time.

Once sil came back to our table I assumed it was over. 15 minutes or so later, SIL stood up suddenly and announced she was going to toilet. I said I would go too.

Once in the toilets however I recognised the girl she was arguing with earlier and as soon as we walked in, SIL started shouting in the girls face telling her to repeat what she'd said earlier and asking where her friends were. The girl was obviously frightened and close to crying. I told SIL to leave her and come back to the table with me, she told me I could go back if I wanted to but she was going to finish off what had been started.

I went back to the table to get her friends, in order to help me get SIL away from the pub. As soon as I explained what was going on they got all excited and made a bee-line for the toilets and it was obvious they were not intending to help. Back inside the toilets, I told SIL I was leaving and she should come with me. With that she punched the girl in the face full force. The girls head banged up against the wall and she tried to push past SIL to get out and sil hit her again and then grabbed the girls hair and threw her to the floor and then started kicking her. I grabbed SIL, shouted at the others to help me and they were all laughing and then shouted at me to get off SIL.

Finally, she decided she'd had enough and just stood there screaming and shouting at her. I've never seen someone lose control so much. To cut the rest of the story short, another woman went for help. SIL and her friends left, I stayed with the girl and I'm now being accused of being involved in it.

DH is fuming, more with me than SIL. I'm fuming because I seem to be getting the blame and I was the one trying to stop her. SIL has come out of it looking like "the life of the party" and is making out that I'm a trouble causer and was intending to spoil the night from the start.

I feel like I don't want anything to do with his family ever again but DH is standing by them.

I just can't get over it at all, I keep seeing the girl on the floor and the woman's face when she told the police officer I was with the attacker etc. I feel like total shit.

I know the victim feels worse, I'm not denying that.

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Disenchantegg3 · 07/04/2009 19:39

OMG, surely the poor woman saw that you were trying to stop your SIL?

This is why I NEVER go out. Fucking nutters everywhere.