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being dumped and feeling :(

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bethy123 · 17/03/2009 16:29

I have been on mumsnet for a while and would just like to share getting dumped is crap!

Quickoverview

married 8 years, dh has affair, we try again, I have m/c at 6 wks, I leave, his gf has baby and they have another on way and are still together

since then (after 2 year wait) finally started dating....

first attempt "didnt want a gf"

second turned out to be married (however seperated) with 4 kids!

lastly after 9 mnth very good (or so I thot) relationship, this one "isn't in love with me". Oh and after that I thot I was pg! (2 neg tests and surprisingly I was disappointed )

CRAP! And exhausting! Good grief. And now am 35 and feel over the hill, alone and peed off!!

Sorry, had to vent, this place has always been good for venting and chatting xx

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Fimbo · 17/03/2009 16:31

You have been having a crap time.

It's hard to try and meet decent men, I was fortunate enough to meet my dh through work. Do you have any friends with single brothers?

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HecatesTwopenceworth · 17/03/2009 16:33

oh gawd. No wonder you are feeling low. there are good men out there who will treat you well.

Might I suggest taking a bit of time out, don't think about a relationship. Spoil yourself, take up some new activities, gain confidence and faith in yourself and get back in there, refreshed.

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bethy123 · 17/03/2009 16:36

Nope. Sound like am real sad but I don't really have many friends. I moved to a different area after splitting with dh. And have recently left my job (he was in same job) as couldn't cope, even now after few years. I have done the usual "meting friends" things of joining classes n stuff but to no avail really. I do have a couple of friends, the first date guy was a relation of one of my friends!

I dunno, know it's just one of those things but sometimes I do feel very "no job, no house (rented flat), no friends, no kids, no bloke", you know what I mean?

But then other times, I do see that as a plus, as in I am free to do whatever I want...it's just working out what it IS that I want!!

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bethy123 · 17/03/2009 16:37

Well I am considering volunteering abroad, animal work or building houses that kind of thing? Getting away but with a purpose rather than an aimless holiday

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HecatesTwopenceworth · 17/03/2009 16:44

that sounds like it might be good for you.

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poshsinglemum · 17/03/2009 16:52

travelling would be wonderful. you are now free to go and explore and have fun! Enjoy your freedom and 35 is still v young.

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beanie35 · 17/03/2009 19:22

You've been through so much, no wonder you're down. Think you need to have a break from relationships and look after yourself, find comfort in being alone for a bit and indulge yourself in all the things you have wanted to do, but haven't had the chance to yet. The world really is your oyster, sure there are lots of women on here that even you having the choice to do what you want to do. All the very best.

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izyboy · 17/03/2009 20:01

Bethy123. So sorry you are having a shitty time. Like the others say there is a positive to your situation, it's not all negative. I agree, indulge yourself as much as poss.

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bethy123 · 17/03/2009 23:45

thanks guys. perspective and positive thots help loads. guess it's how u view a situation really isn't it?

it's funny the most optimistic thing is that i'm alone and yet the saddest thing (depending how i dwell on it) is that i'm alone

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