My beautiful mum would have been 50 today

[schneebly]

I am not posting this in bereavment because today I am thinking of her with a smile on my face as I remember all that she did for us, which I can appreciate all the better now that I am a mother myself.

I am remembering all the happy times of which there were so many..camping trips, singing together, sunday drives. Life was not perfect and neither was my mum but one thing I know is that she remains one of the most selfless people I have ever known. She put so much into looking after my brothers and myself even working nights and still being there for us in the day where things were tight.

I remember her beautiful singing voice, the way she used to call me 'toots' and I even smile when I think of how she could make you stop and behave with just one look.

So for those of you out there who have lost you mum I hope that you are able to think of her with a smile - it can take time and it may always be tinged with a little sadness but memories are a wonderful thing and I hope you can treasure them like I do.

[JumpingDizzy]

She sounds lovely scheebly Happy birthday to your mum xxx

[Geepers]

What a lovely post.

Next week is/would have been my mum's 50th too. She'd have got so much teasing she is probably glad she is missing it ;)

[DanJARMouse]

Lovely post Schneebly, I know how you feel.

My mum died 5yrs ago this summer, at the age of 48.

I remember her with a smile, but I still havent gotten over the cruel way in which she was taken from us so early.

Be kind to yourself x

[Lizzylou]

Aw Schneebly, what a beautiful post

Your Mom sounds gorgeous.

[Disenchanted3]

[wilbur]

Lovely post schneebly. It was the 12th anniversary of my mother's death on Sunday and I tried to think of her with a smile, even though I didn't always manage. Happy Birthday to Schneebly's mum.

[prettyfly1]

what a lovely, touching post. Happy birthday to your mum, I would imagine from the tone of your posts she would be very proud of you.

[HumphreyCobbler]

[schneebly]

Thanks for all the lovely messages

JARM - it has taken me 7 years to get to this stage and I still get sad sometimes of course I do and I totally undertsand how you feel. You don't ever imagine you mum dying so young do you?

Wilbur - it is not always easy even when it has been many years but I always try to think that we were lucky to have her even it it wasn't for as long as we would have liked. I sometimes get sad when I think how much she would love my children.

I have a put a picture of her on my profile for today - it was taken on her wedding day to my Dad in 1977 - she was 18 years old.

[prettyfly1]

she is beautiful schneebly - what a lovely photo

[wilbur]

What a great picture - she looks like the woman who used to be in the Flake commercials in the 70s (showing my age now ). Agree that it's having children she never saw that is the hardest thing now, my mother would have been a fab and completely random Granny.

[schneebly]

at Flake lady - she would have loved that! She does look very pretty in the pic but certainly of the time

Rubyruby - she had stomach cancer which was, unfortunatly, diagnosed very late. 5 months later she passed away at home. We were all with her.

[ILikeToMoveItMoveIt]

Happy Birthday

Your mum is beautiful.

What a beautiful post, it has made me all weepy.

[GentleOtter]

Happy Birthday for your beautiful mum, schneebly.She would be very proud having such a loving and lovely daughter. x

[schneebly]

Aww thank - sorry for making some people emotional

[purpleflower]

My Mum would be 55 this December but unfortunately never made it past 45.

It would be her and my Dads 36th wedding anniversary next week.

It took a very long time but I think of her with a smile now and not the sadness that I had for a very long time. It does hit me now and then that she didn't get to see me finishing growing up and that my DC are missing a truely amazing Nan from their lives. There are more happy memories than sad now though

Your mum was a very beautiful lady schneebly.

Happy 50th birthday schneebly's Mum.

[schneebly]

Tthat is just how I feel purpleflower.

Thank you for your kind words and I am glad you can enjoy happy memories of you mum.

[schneebly]

been looking for old flake ads on youtube now!

[WowOoo]

Ah, that's lovely. Almost 3 years since I lost mine (would be 59) so still finding it hard to smile but I do smile.
thanks and happy birthday schneebly's lovely Mum.

[schneebly]

Thanks wow. I am glad you can smile when you think of her I think it really helps to deal with it.

[WowOoo]

Yeah, it does help.
I really only have lovely memories of her as she was such a lush lady. ( don't want to think of her illness - those last months were not her) Can even have a giggle now which is sooo good. Although not so long ago my laughter turned to tears. Was with my brother and we were a bit tipsy!!!

[Hassled]

schneebly - that was lovely and made me all a bit teary . And it's wonderful you can smile at all the memories.

My mother would have been 72 in April - she died at 45 from cancer. But I can see her in my DD every day - not physically, but their personalities are so alike. I hope you get the same comfort from our DCs.

[Hassled]

your DCs