we had a MASSIVE row today about a friggin' NOSEBLEED of all things!
DS (6) has had a few recently, and last time he had one I saw DH getting him to tilt his head back.Ds was getting all panicky about the blood running down his throat, so I stepped in and told DH that this wasn't how you handle nosebleeds - should be head tilted forwards to let blood run out etc so child doesn't vomit. Anyway he went all huffy on that occasion, saying that was what he'd always done/ hadn't harmed him etc etc.
Thing is I work in health (although not a nurse etc) and I have done first aid courses etc, so it's not as if I don't have some reason to know what I'm talking about.
Later on I showed DH our children's first aid book, saying 'look - things have changed, and this is now the recommended way to handle nosebleeds, OK'.
Then today DS has another one, and I find DH with him HOLDING HIS HEAD BACK again, with DS getting increasingly hysterical about the blood in his throat etc.
I just lost it with DH. WHY would he do this, when we'd had a conversation about ti previously. He just kept saying 'well there's more than one way to do things'/ 'it's what my mother always did'.../ 'never did me any harm'/ it's what I've always done, and it works etc etc.
He simply WOULD NOT accept and acknowledge that I might know better than him on this one. It's like he COULDN'T acknowledge that he might be 'wrong' or at least out-of-date.
I simply cannot understand why he would be so stubborn about something affecting DS's health (albeit in a minor way on this occasion).
When I took over he then started making snide comments about 'oh yes, you've got to do it Mummy's way, I'm afraid DS....'
When I asked him why he'd done the same thing as last time, even after we'd talked about it, he just kept saying 'there was no evidence it was better' and I needed to prove it.
I can't believe how angry this has made me. It's a petty example, but similar to a whole load of similar examples -
- he really is a stubborn prat
- he will not accept that I am ever correct about anything
- once he's 'made his point' he will NEVER step back and say 'OK, maybe I was wrong'.
I feel like leaving him tonight