I have been hurt repeatedly by my father my entire life. It's usually when he forgets my birthday (please don't say this is trivial - this comes on top of a very long and unpleasant history) or my stepmothers sends my children presents but they're quite clearly her doing, not his IYSWIM. Every time I feel hurt and cry a lot - I have a lot of unresolved issues from my childhood and bad memories that are stirred when this happens. I'm having counselling anyway so will be spending a lot of time talking about him.
But in an effort of self-preservation, I'd like to write him a letter explaining that I'd rather he just stopped contacting me for the meantime so that, when he forgets about me, I can know it's because I asked him to, not because he's a shit IYSWIM.
Has anyone done anything like this? People I've spoken to about this say 'I wouldn't do that...you'd really regret it if anything happened to him' but is that true? Has anyone broken contact and then found it impossible to cope when that person's died?
Thanks for any advice/experience.
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Anyone asked a parent to break contact for a while?
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Lindenlass · 02/03/2009 08:42
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