Am I the only 1 who thinks of sex this way?

[CrackerBean]

I sometimes think Im strange when it comes to sex because I'm so like a guy!!

I cant do goin for a bath or massages coz I just want to go to bed after!
Foreplay half the time I cant be bothered doin!

I swear Im a guy because I'm in it for the orgasm, it's like most woman need all the petting to feel close & love etc etc but I think when u orgasm(espec. together) thats when u cling on & its intense and that I believe is the most powerful part of sex and it only took like half an hour to an hour so you're still getting plenty of shut eye!!

Is anyone else on the same track??

[duke748]

Hey you.

I also love to orgasm, its the most fun bit, surely? A few mind-blowing orgasms in a night and I am one happy happy lady!

But the chilling together and touching each other and feeling close is also good too, not necessarily before sex. Sometimes just as well as part of the fun of being in a relationship.

I guess it depends on how you feel about each other and what mood you're both in.

I wouldn't be too quick to label it 'guy' or 'girl' behaviour though, surely its just 'you' behaviour?

I'm slightly worried that you seem to be thinking its a good thing to act like a guy in bed, and maybe you feel you have to live up to this 'I want sex and no strings' thing and are therefore denying that you too have a softer side. I could be way off the mark, but hey, its a relationships forum, so I thought I'd put my two pennies in!

Anyway, have fun - sex is one of the only free ways to have fun now!

[VincenzotheBanker]

Your text speak is really irritating.

[Princeonthemove]

Is this a joke

'I cant do goin'

Good Lord.

[Clattered]

Your post has far too many exclamation marks.

[duke748]

Ouch ladies.

[LynetteScavo]

CrackerBean is 19.

Sex for half an hour to an hour? I'd be exhausted!

[CrackerBean]

No its ok believe me thats not harsh.
There's a few things really I'm actually quite good at grammar just to defend myslef on that point.
Vincenzothebanker this being a relationship forum this one in particular about sex NOT a frickin english lesson if you don't have a comment about sex, orgasms, the male/female thing I was talking about don't bother commenting okay!
Yeah I probably did use slang talk and I'm sorry if you're too outdated to recognise it but just because I'm 19 doesn't make me any less of a mother, housewife, earner and/or lover!! Because well I helped raise my siblings. I mean how many teenagers, in fact how many woman, do you know who done labour themselves without the midwives or anyone telling them to push and having hours & hours of labour with no pain relief!
And also Princeonthemove, when I type as fast as I do you know sometimes I might miss a key or misspell something and you know when my babys started crying so I know it's my free time up, I just click post instead of spell checking it I mean Jeez what are you a frickin English teacher!!
In fact I do find it quite sad how you actually took the time to sit and comment that!!
Yeah sorry I don't know why I use exclamation marks.. hee hee I've never noticed before.
Actually I do think the ONLY people who have stuck to the flaming purpose of this thread are the people who answered the qestion.
So for all the people who seemed to think they were so cocky with their english.
A question usually requires an anwser.
Now the reason I haven't spellchecked THIS is because I'm now going for my food and to have a wee think about the things that were actually useful on this.

[CrackerBean]

myself* oops

[OrmIrian]

Yep. Can't be doing with all the faffing around. And yes, I want to curl up on my own afterwards and go to sleep. DH likes all the post match analysis

[OrmIrian]

Does that make me like a 'guy' though?

[CharleeheartsherChains]

I am the same CrackerBean to a certain extent, i would be happy alot fo the time to just go the penetration, i like foreplay but im not fussed if it wasn't there, iyswim?!

I wouldn't say it was 'like a man' but maybe a stereotypical 'lad' thing to do?

DP like the foreplay though and it feels good so i go along with it!

[CrackerBean]

I mean I do foreplay when the other half's interested or if it's a seduction thing.

But in reply to realityismyonlyvalentines comments.. Have you not watched sex and the city, it is yes, a rather stereotypical thing to say and maybe you're not from scotland but all the men I know don't want to cuddle and it's actually kind of medical because once a guy ejaculates it releases hormones and i honestly can't remember the technical word, but sex makes men extra sleepy!
And I think on every sex programme & womans magazine tells you that the majority of women in relationships are in sex for the feelings & closeness etc etc.
But since my "skip foreplay" lasts at least half an hour I get lots of orgasms maybe I'm just lucky with multiples so I don't need foreplay, it's just everyone makes a big deal out of foreplay..so I wondered if anyone else had the same thoughts.

OrmIrian, no it doesn't make you a guy I'd A)not listen to the fanny tryin to make the cocky comments that well yawn aren't really funny..
B)I'd say that it doesn't make you any less feminine and to be honest guys can love you for it cause like I said, they want to go to sleep after!

I'm like the only female I know who doesn't care about cuddling & foreplay!
I cuddle into my partner every night either before or when i go to sleep so it's not a lack of closeness.
Even if there was no sex there would be no change..we didn't always have sex we've known each other since we were 14..that probably helps...

[solidgoldbullet4myvalentine]

If you and whoever you have sex with enjoy it, then there's nothing to worry about whether you have no foreplay, lots of foreplay, or can only get off if you dress up as a tellytubby and get your partner to sing Row Row Row Your Boat.

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

There is no such thing as 'male' or 'female' sexual behaviour. It's nonsense perpetuated by people who want to pigeonhole men and women, excuse men for being lazy shags and discourage women from being sexually demanding or expecting good sex. It's also used to excuse male cheating and serial shagging whilst making women feel wrong or weird for the same behaviour.

Sometimes I like cuddles and eye contact, sometimes not. I always like an orgasm. Sometimes DH likes the mushy stuff, sometimes he can't be bothered. Doesn't say much about us as men and women, just people.