Hi
My DP of 2.5 years seems to have a 'problem'. We met through internet dating. Took it fairly slowly but then became a couple. As far as I was concerned it was an exclusive relationship (and we had discussed this).
Felt suspicious after a while that something was going on. He denied it. I have a DD and he (after 3 months) was starting to meet her. I said to him 'No problem if you are seeing other people, we can still see each other on a casual basis but let me know because obviously I won't intro you to DD'. He said time and again he wasn't.
I finally looked at his pc one day and found another dating site. Went mad, he cried, said some woman had emailed him he hadn't replied etc etc. Over the next few months more and more came out, he HAD replied, in fact he'd emailed her first, he was a member of lots of sites and had been talking to lots of women.
By this stage he'd bonded with my daughter and I was totally torn, he swore he'd never do it again etc. We went to counselling.
Anyway, since then everything has been ok, hes been much more open and honest and then tonight I found IM on my pc (he uses my pc - we live together now). It flashed up with a message from a dating site. I confront him:
Firstly he
installed IM by accident
then he installed by accident but clicked on 'sign in' just to see
then he had received messages but hadn't looked at them
then he had received messages and had read them (they were from a dating site, he says he has no idea how it got his address)
then he reveals hes also been receiving emails (unsolicited) from a dating site but has been putting them in 'spam'
THen says he actually read one because it was from someone called Tammy and he knew a Tammy years ago
Then says 'yes it did say 'find singles in your area' in the subject box, but he clicked on the link which led to the dating website, out of curiosity.
This ever changing story has come out over the last hour.
Advice???? My DD adores him.
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Please help me, feel like I'm going mad. long sorry
Hesdoneitagain · 03/02/2009 19:49
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