Last Summer I found out one of the guys on our college course was tragically killed during a camping expedition. The circumstances were possibly avoidable as he died from Carbon Monoxide poisoning. He was about the same age as me, been married to the girl he met at college (I aslo met my DW at college too) and had 2 DCs - church was packed out and a very moving service. Wasn't really close to the guy after leaving but it really shook me up then. It still does when I hear certain hymns that were played.
We have collected a few pieces of artwork from a quite well known artist. For Xmas I got my DW some of his sculpture, a book and best of all a personally signed calendar. This was all done a week or two before Xmas. The artists wife sorted out the signing and said she had never laughed so much when she saw the dedication I asked for. Yesterday I just found out he had died ! Had an accident on Xmas Eve and died the day before NYE - he's also the same age as me. Been married for a long time to the same partner.
I have his wifes email address - I feel like writing something but don't know what - is it an invasion of privacy? I guess he was in the public domain so maybe people think they 'know' someone. Any suggestions?
So once again been struck with thinking about what would happen if it was me or my DW - how do you cope when that happens?? We are both totally committed to each other and have been our one an only - soul mate - whatever. Jokingly we sort of talked about it last night - what would you miss about me but maybe we need to think about it more. We do have a will sorted out and in the event of us both passing at the sametime DCs will be taken care of.
Probably a bit of a mid life crisis but potentially I could take up redundancy and would prefer to do other job that gives me more personal satisfaction but would most likley pay a lot less and be more risky. Should I adopt a life is too short attitude and do it - or most likely we'll be around for mnay years and need the steady income to support DCs through school / college - have quite a few years to go....
Sorry its long and a bit depressing - realise we are so lucky in so many ways but stuff like this just makes you think what if.....
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SexyDomesticatedDad · 27/01/2009 09:06
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