I've been in a long distance relationship with my DP for almost a year and we adore eachother. It's going to be long distance for the next couple of years until his DD leaves home and he can relocate to my area. The drive between us takes 4 hours and I'm the one who tends to travel because he has to work Saturdays - he'll lose his job if he doesn't and in the current recession won't have a chance of finding anything else (he's in building).
He's also short of money and has started falling into debt; I on the other hand am reasonably solvent and my hours are reasonable. I love this man to bits and can see a future with him but have responsibilities of my own (not least a DS of 9, who thankfully spends a lot of time with his dad). My DP does make a real effort to please me and feels bad about not being able to come and see me more often/being short of money but I can't help thinking sometimes that the situation's just too complicated and life would be so much simpler if I was on my own again! I don't know how long I can keep up the travelling; at the moment we spend every other weekend together but the 400 mile trip is wearing me out and costing me! Then I think about the closeness and how much I love being with him and how happy I am after my miserable marriage! I speak to friends/family about it but I could really do with some objective advice!
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I love this man but the distance stinks!
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lorelei58 · 26/01/2009 15:59
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