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Partner has turned out to be a nutter

(138 Posts)
SnackJack Sun 25-Jan-09 22:26:14

I'm feeling so down and fed up. I was a single parent for almost 8 years, had a few disastrous relationships in the meantime, ended up thinking I was meant to be alone for ever and then I met what I thought to be a lovely man.
He would take me out for dinner, send me flowers randomly, treated me like a princess, I LOVED spending time with him, we were planning a holiday together and he was great with my kids.

I really thought he was "the one".

Anyway for the past couple of weeks things have been different, he has seemed pre-occupied, when I phone he seems 'cold' and made excuses about why we couldn't meet until last night he said "we need to talk" and I thought "great, here it comes...its not working out or 'i've found someone else' blah blah blah"

So we arranged for him to come here tonight. I made us dinner, he was quiet all night. Kids went to bed, I asked what he wanted to talk about and he started off by saying "this is going to be so hard, you're not going to understand or even believe what I tell you but its taken so much courage to decide it needs to be said"

So I'm like hmm just get on with it...

He sits opposite me, holds my hand, looks directly at me and with the straightest face you could imagine says......

"I'm a vampire".

I didn't say anything at first, just looked at him before saying "what?" and he repeated it.

I obviously assumed it was a metaphore for something else but he went on to assure me that he was actually a real, full on vampire.

I told him I wasn't in the mood for games and playing around, sense of humour may have taken a dive tonight, whatever but I wanted to know why he has cooled right off these past few weeks. He kept on with this stupid fucking vampire story until in the end I just told him to leave.

I can't believe it has ended like this. I mean, if he wanted to break up, why couldn't he give me a proper reason? we have been together for almost a year now, surely too long to take the piss like this as a quick and half hearted way to dump me?

I'm sick to death of everything. DD is playing me up something rotten and now I'm stuck back to being a single parent again.

sazzerbear Tue 24-Feb-09 20:08:01

Is he a really hot vampire like Mitchell in "Being Human?" If so, maybe you can excuse him and learn to love it! grin

marie1979 Tue 24-Feb-09 20:04:45

you had a lucky escape what a nutter???

harleyd Mon 16-Feb-09 14:21:54

ah, i just love a happy ending grin

SnackJack Mon 16-Feb-09 14:19:25

Well we have decided to give things a go. Turns out he wasn't just saying it, he really is a vampire. He's determined not to kill me and drink my blood as that would really ruin our future plans. We have a lovely holiday to Romania booked for September and so now its just a case of trying to get past our differences. If we love each other, then no obstacle should be too hard for us to over-come.

nobodyputsbabyinacorner Sun 15-Feb-09 23:04:55

Havent laughed out loud at anything for so long, stumbled across this thread by accident when empathised about ur ex being a nutter, snackjack. Sorry u r feeling crap but the whole thread was hilarious, so please can we have an update

12stepmum Fri 13-Feb-09 14:09:45

me too, its really brightened up my friday (the 13th too...oooh spooky!)

I nearly wet myself reading this... Please Snackjack can we have an update.

deste Sat 31-Jan-09 23:40:23

It sounds as if he has mental health issues and I'm glad you cancelled the date. I know its hard but I would put this one down to experience, (character building and all that) and keep well away. He was maybe warning you before he took the relationship to a new level. Err, whatever vampires do on the next level. If he has mental health issues he was not playing and would not be able to stop because you told him to.

Buckets Sat 31-Jan-09 21:36:22

What is a blood donor shop? Do you mean a charity shop? Maybe it's that smell he doesn't like?

Persianvase Fri 30-Jan-09 19:45:50

Plllleeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee give me an update!!! grin

waspriceyp Wed 28-Jan-09 15:48:36

Checked with my vampire friend and it turns out she's actually a trained phlebotomist now. Phew, I was really worried!
Maybe that's what he meant.
He takes bloods for a living
Hates sunlight, so lives in Scotland
Rarely eats in Italian restaurants...

[vampire grin]

CapricaSix Wed 28-Jan-09 12:40:34

yes i have to say again, your post of Mon 10:50:11 was genius!

SheherazadetheGoat Wed 28-Jan-09 09:12:35

snigger @ 'has to avoid sunlight or he burns, that's why he lives in Scotland'.

mumonthenet Wed 28-Jan-09 09:02:42

I have literally not laughed so much in years.

Snackjack, not laughing at you - and am really sorry he's turned out to be a nutter...the advice is good - steer clear of him because...

he's either a nutter or a vampire - and neither is a good future prospect.

CapricaSix Tue 27-Jan-09 23:07:41

This has to be a mumsnet classic, snackjack your posts have been very clever & funny and the responses have had me giggling over my computer at work.

I have to say i've been waiting for you to 'fess up and come out from under the bridge... surely it's just too funny to be real?!

MrsPickles Tue 27-Jan-09 21:24:34

Felt quite guilty for making light when someone mentioned pyschotic episode - actually if he genuinely believes himself to be a vampire he could be quite dangerous and/or mentally ill. Stay clear and be safe hon he sounds barking x

izyboy Tue 27-Jan-09 09:26:15

Actually I am glad you cancelled Snackers. I hope he is joking with you/is sane but enjoys vampire 'experiences'with willing partners. However he could be having a psychotic episode and this would be alot for you to have to deal with. Whatever is going on, I think your response is sensible and will sort out the 'wheat from the chaff'.

lou33 Mon 26-Jan-09 23:33:14

am clicking with a weird mix of excitement and trepidation

themoon66 Mon 26-Jan-09 23:30:27
lou33 Mon 26-Jan-09 23:21:52

wtf?
i think i just threw up in my mouth a little then

can i have a link?

this i have to read...

dsrplus8 Mon 26-Jan-09 23:20:10

lou you did read right! <jumps back to grotty man thread>grin

lou33 Mon 26-Jan-09 23:14:59

themoon, did i just read that right?!

sophable Mon 26-Jan-09 23:12:15

i LOVE the vampire lestat and interview with a vampire and all things vampiric by the way

sophable Mon 26-Jan-09 23:11:40

oh snackjack. you need to find out if this is a metaphor of some kind. it doesn't seem to mean he doesn't want to be with you but rather than he is....oh god, actually he IS a nutter isn't he?

themoon66 Mon 26-Jan-09 22:52:19

SnackJack... have you seen the Grotty Man thread in AIBU? There's a post in there about a tampon sucking man... might be your guy?

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