We are constantly skint and everything we do (or, usually, don't do) is dictated by this absolute lack of money. We have one dc together, and we have been together a few years. We've talked about getting married but only as a functional thing rather than a romantic notion.
I am fat and unattractive, my parents are dead, and I barely have any friends. So for me, the wedding would be a quiet trip to the registry office in smart clothes, followed by a family party at his family's house (they live a long way away)
But everytime I say that, he says he's not happy with it, he wants his family there at the service. I've tried explaining that as soon as you start involving other people, the costs rise. Suddenly you have to arrange places for them to stay, you have to wear proper wedding clothes, arrange someone to take photos, sort out flowers, hire cars - and then the issue of bridesmaids, not to mention feeding them all and finding reception venues etc (up to 10 people might come on my side, at least 40 on his)
So once again we've had a big row over it and it has been shelved, again. We have this row a few times a year, with him saying he doesn't like my idea, but not offering any solutions or input of his own. And the years go by with no plans being made.
He knows we will NEVER have the money to "do it properly" so I'm starting to think he just says that as a stalling tactic. Oh, I'm fed up. All I want is to have the same name as my son, and before the next dc arrives.
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