ok, namechanging semi-regular, semi-lurker (actually have used this name before but I have no imagination to think up a new one.)
Last year we moved 100 miles to allow DH to start new job... DH was then made redundant early November - completely not his fault and actually I thought he took it fairly well. The news timed perfectly with a substantial pay rise for me, so money-wise its not a crisis.
He's always been a bit of a lazy-arse, but now its just a lot more obvious (if the next comments make people 'recognise' me, please don't out me; I really don't want dh to know my normal name, and if he spots this he'll know its about him). We don't have kids (I joined MN when we were TTC a few years back) and he doesn't have to get up to work every day, so I guess I can understand why he stays in bed til midday every day.
What I don't understand is why he won't do any housework unless I give him a direct instruction AND a reason why I'm not doing it myself. Why he won't apply for JSA (I know we're not on the breadline, but we're not so well off it wouldn't make a difference). Why he won't even tell his parents he's unemployed. Could all of these just be pride?
Does anyone have any ideas how I can start 'correcting' this without making it worse! ie. not saying "Oy lazy arse! I'm out working all day - the least you could have done was get the washing out that I put on before I left" Should I actually not be correcting this? Maybe a bit more space and understanding would be better than nagging?
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trytoohard · 22/01/2009 08:12
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