We need to live apart, we are doing the kids' (1.3 and 3.4) heads in no matter how hard we try to be friendly and loving each day there isn't anything left. I would love to move closer to my family 400+ miles away but he can't as he has his DD1 (13) and he could never afford a car. He is also in very secure (if low paid) employment at the moment and would find it very difficult to get another job (no quals or much experience).
Do I have any right to up sticks and restrict his access to the DDs to 2days/fortnight? Obviously he could see hem more if he came down but realistically this is what he could manage. Would the DDs be scarred for life. He could move down in 18mths+ perhaps to study, when his DD is older.
He is a fantastic hands on fun dad who the DDs adore but childlike in so many ways (my sister refers to him as my care in the community project ).
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AccidentalMum · 17/01/2009 16:28
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