anyone else a bit bored and irritated by their sex life?

[newgirl]

been married for 12 years and sex has been great in the past, although it took a year or two to get going...!

last night dh initiated sex and i could just not be bothered. It was pretty late but we were getting on well and it seemed like a good idea but half way through i just thought - i cant be bothered - this isnt working for me. so big row and all fed up today.

aghhhh any tips?

[rubles]

Well sometimes it just doesn't work out does it? Was it just a one-off and you have both over-reacted? Or is that your normal reaction to sex these days?
It is not unusual for things to just not click sometimes, not that often but that happens I would be able to call it off without hurting feelings. But I think my dp is quite robust in that respect...I don't know if I would be able to be the same if the shoe was on the other foot.

[2manychips]

It gets dull for me if we leave til last thing at night,routine type sex. Dh and I try and vary as possible. We try and grab a quickie during the day sometimes and dare I admit it had a little in-car session after the cinema recently. We've only made 7 yrs together so far though!

[newgirl]

thanks for your posts - you two are very wise. I dont think it is a normal reaction but it might be getting that way. It was def last thing at night routine type sex. I think i need to be a bit braver and maybe as soon as kids in bed not watch it takes two and make a move..! thanks for responding - it made me feel better just to write it down and be listened too