Until my dad died in July, my mum and i were really close and had a fantastic relationship. I was also very close to my dad, whereas she had quite a rocky time with him. She has recently moved full time to their home in Spain where we visited her last week. It felt as though she could barely look at me, snapping and putting me down almost constantly and for the first time ever critising how we are bringing up our girls. It even seems to extend to my DD2 (3), who she couldn't be harder on. DD2 can be a little bit sprited, but she was so hard on her. DD1 (7) can do no wrong and is definately favourite grandchild.
It was the first time I had been to their home in spain since Dad died, so found it very emotional seeing all his stuff, photos etc. Mum made me feel so awful for getting upset and actually seemed quite angry about it.
Despite all of this she was lovely to DH and DD1.
I am wondering if it is because DD2 and I were so close to my Dad, and maybe because DD2 looks so much like dad, and has his mischivious spirit. It has made me feel totally isolated and alone within the family, can barely bring myself to speak to her on the phone at the moment
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What has happened to my relationship with my Mum
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drivinmecrazy · 06/11/2008 09:53
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