I have 2 best, best friends that I have known since i was about 14. We only hung around loosely at school, mostly after school but I was more on the fringe of their group iykwim. We went to uni together but had our own groups of friends and maintained our friendship apart from that. Now we are 30 and they live near each other (but still quite independant lives) and I live in another country. We love each other to pieces, we talk when we can, we so far have managed to see each other once a year, we Skype etc etc.
They know me, they love me, we have never really argued apart from drunken bickering about god knows what ridiculous topic. They know my bad points and love me anyway.
I have one other friend like this, that I met when I was 18. A similarly independant friendship that just survives and survives. No obligations, no ´you should have´, ´why didn´t you´, no tit for tat or stupid misunderstandings.
But although I have (and have had) many friends since, some closer, others less so, I often find them eventually falling by the wayside. And I feel sad at having invested time in a friendship just to find, like a relationship, that it hasn´t ´worked out´.
Does anyone else find this?
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Maveta · 16/10/2008 21:24
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