To get straight to the point I am 37 weeks pregnant and my mother just rang to say she has handed in her notice at work (for unrelated reasons) and she will now be free to come and stay. I don't know how to deal with this offer. We get on fine in a superficial way - talk on the phone every day, visit her at the weekends but she drives me mad. She is a really heavy smoker and although it is not something we talk about much as a family she drinks quite a bit too.
Dh and I are both very anti-smoking. We have a dd who is 2 and who has asthma and we have asked my mother not to smoke in the house. She agreed and does really make an effort when she is here but goes to bed early and smokes a lot and the spare room and hall way stink for ages after she leaves. I really don't want dd, new baby or myself to be in that environment but she means well and will really try to help out when she is here.
The other problem is that because of the drinking I don't feel I could leave her with dd if I went into labour in the night. MIL is on stand by and only lives 5 minutes away. I know I should be an adult and confront her but I don't want to upset her. She has been through some tough times lately and is looking forward to visiting. Help.
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Has anyone any advice on how to deal with a situation with my mother?
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suiledonn · 14/10/2008 09:49
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