Friends children

[Gwynie]

Do you think that when our close friends have children at around the same time as we do, we kinda automatically assume that these children will be just as good friends as we are with their mothers?
My sister has a good friend who has a child who has nearly the same b/date as her DS (hers is 2 yrs older and a dd) and she said the other day that in the future they could hold joint b/day parties.My sis said she would consider it, but then I thought that they could be making assumptions that the children will get on when older.
They live in different areas (not too far way though) and the kids would have different sets of friends through school and their neighbourhoods, etc. Plus, not sure if the different sexes would be an issue or the age gap.
I was never close friends with any of my mothers friends' children as I got older, so maybe that's why I am finding it a little odd to assume anything.
Anyway, just wondered what others thought.

BTW, just to emphasise that I mean when they have already started school, not pre-school age..

[Lindy]

Gwynie - not quite answering you exactly as my DS is only 2 but we moved to a brand new house & I made a very good friendship with the woman next door, she was also new to the village but we found we get on really well, not just as 'neighbours' anyway (to get to the point!!) we had our sons within 3 weeks of each other, she has 3 others already, so they automatically do see a lot of each other BUT their temperments are very different (her's is an angel ....... suffice to say mine is not!!) so I can't honestly see that they will be that 'close' friends for ever ... but you never know. They certainly love seeing each other now.

I can always remember 'loathing' have to visit my mother's friends & their children & being told 'you will like so & so, she's just the same age as you' ....... guaranteed to be unpleasant to them!!

[Scatterbrain]

Gwynie, perhaps we should ask everyone on Mumsnet whether or not they are still friends with any of their mum's friends' offspring ? I suspect if they are it will be a coincidence !

As they say - you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends - so the thought of my mother choosing my friends fills me with horror !!! Actually she hates all my friends with a vengeance !