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Why does this put me off?? Psychiatric evaluation needed! :-D

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MrsSnape · 17/09/2008 15:51

I have been talking to a man online for the past couple of days. He seems nice but I'm totally put off by the fact that he seems to be .... well...too successful???

Basically he recently bought a brand new house in a very well known and expensive part of town. He has travelled extensively and basically seems to have a lot of money. Why does this put me off?

We were talking about travelling and he reeled off all these countries from Dubai to Newzealand...and then asked where I'd been. I said "germany, canary islands and ibiza" I then added that we're going to florida next year thinking america at least sounds impressive and he was nice about it ... but also answered my "have you ever been to america?" question with a list of US cities he's visited. I felt really stupid.

So I'm assuming I'm feeling inferior? He seems to have this great life and money and I'm a single parent living in a council house with no job.

Should I forget it or is it worth pursuing?

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MadameCastafiore · 17/09/2008 15:52

Do you think he is for real - people who are that successful normally don't see the need to boast about it!

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zippitippitoes · 17/09/2008 15:52

so have you told him anything about yourself

is he interesting

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ParCark · 17/09/2008 15:57

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MrsSnape · 17/09/2008 15:58

He doesn't boast as such...most of it was in answer to my questions but it does seem a bit 'excessive' iyswim? a bit unrealistic. He said he's just got back from gran caneria and is off to Turkey in November

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zippitippitoes · 17/09/2008 15:59

i fdont quite understand the problem

have you told him you are a single parent with no job etc

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MrsSnape · 17/09/2008 16:01

He knows I'm a single parent but hasn't asked anything else about me other than asking how old the kids are.

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chocolatemummy · 17/09/2008 16:02

If you are feeling inferior and having doubts already i'd say it's a no goer.
I know what you mean, if he has had all these experiences what are you going to throw back at him in conversations.

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zippitippitoes · 17/09/2008 16:05

i dont see how someone can be too successful really...but if you are in very different circumstances would you get on?

do you have any shared interests?

on the surface i wouldnt be matched with my bf so it doesnt necessarily matter but if you dont like th e idea that he might have a good job and have money to spend and you would feel inferior then it probably isnt going to go far

would you expect him to do cheap dates or pay for you?

he might not be happy economising when he wants to have fun

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Remotew · 17/09/2008 16:09

I don't think its that unusual to have travelled extensively. I have been to lots of countries. I just wouldn't list them all on line to someone who may not have travelled it would feel like boasting.

No harm in keeping in touch and meeting. Perhaps he just likes lots of holidays. Perhaps he has recently split, got half the money and is blowing it by living it up. Not sure I'd get on with someone like that personally, but hey.

Often men exaggerate in the beginning. I wish they would just be themselves as it puts me off when I realise the've been bigging up their circumstances.

Find out and let us know how you get on.

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MrsSnape · 17/09/2008 16:12

I will do! I'm actually quite intrigued lol.

To be honest, I don't think it will go anywhere though, I couldn't be doing with him jetting off all over the world whilst I make do with a weekend in Blackpool for instance, it would be pointless and I'd probably start feeling all bitter and twisted lol.

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dollius · 17/09/2008 16:33

"He knows I'm a single parent but hasn't asked anything else about me other than asking how old the kids are."

This is the problem. He has talked an awful lot about himself and shown next to no interest in who you are. That would put me off.

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amethyst86 · 17/09/2008 17:59

He sounds like a big old show off.

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HuwEdwards · 17/09/2008 18:45

If it don't feel right, it very likely isn't.

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