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Just found 2 cartons of steroids 'hidden' in the cupboard!

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VerySuspicious · 16/09/2008 18:32

Mmmmm, so what I do now? I don't particularly like steroids, ex partners of mine have taken them and to me they spell nothing but trouble ie: aggression. However, it's the deceipt that really bothers me. My partner is due back from work any time now. I have quickly counted all the pills in each box and put them back where he has very stupidly hidden them to see if he will take any over the coming days/weeks. You see, we have discussed this before and have agreed steroids are for dickheads! In my experience men can lie their way out of anything so I am not going to confront him now I am going to wait for proof that he is actually taking them- NOT just 'keeping them for a friend' or some other crap.

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VerySuspicious · 16/09/2008 18:34

Oh and just to add, I have namechanged for this.

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misdee · 16/09/2008 18:36

what kind of steroids?

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VerySuspicious · 16/09/2008 18:39

Dianabols- for muscle gain. Well, at least thats what I think they are. One box is full of blue heart shaped tablets and one pink round tablets. Also, a packet of 'Lovegra'- I googled it, it's like viagra for women. How weird is that?

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VerySuspicious · 16/09/2008 19:30

What would you do if you found out your DP ahd been lying to you? It makes me think, well, if he can lie aboutthis then how can I trust him about anything? We have a 7mth old DS together. This sucks.

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TwoMore · 17/09/2008 10:18

Has he baught them to sell on the internet?

Does he have a mistress who likes 'Lovegra'?

Maybe they are for you? Maybe he has image ishoos and thinks he needs to look better and perform better.

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minorbird · 17/09/2008 10:28

He doesnt sell them does he? I know a guy who sells things like that.

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beanieb · 17/09/2008 10:33

this might help?

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VerySuspicious · 17/09/2008 10:55

Twomore, I think if he bought them to sell then he would have no reason not to tell me so I think I can rule that out. I doubt he has a mistress too but having said that I wouldn't rule it out. He has always been very anti- cheating and has never given me a reason to think he would. He's a devoted dad. He used to be absolutley lovely to me- but lately he has been a bit nasty tempered with me on occassion which leads me to think that he might be on steroids. However, this could be down to tiredness too- our DS is going through a lovely phase of waking at 1amish and then fidgeting on and off for the rest of the night! Our sex life hasn't been the best either recently, he used to pester me quite alot but lately he doesn't seem that interested. I have complained a bit to be honest so maybe the Loevgra is for him and he thinks its viagra?! Surely he would tell me though? I can't ask him about the Lovegra without fessing up to finding his steroids though. As to him having image issues, well, he hates excercise and LOVES eating. He is slightly overweight. Steroids would be useless without weight training but that doesn't mean he's not taking them. Steroids affect a man's sex drive too I know this from past experience. I counted the pills again this morning- none missing. I am not going to tell him just yet that I have found them because I don't trust him not to lie. Lying is my pet hate so I really hope there is some logical explanation but I doubt it

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TwoMore · 17/09/2008 11:05

So the Lovegra could be to counter the effects of the steroids? Have you looked threw the history on the computer for sites about steroids?

It sounds, from what you have said, that this is a body issue and he is taking short cuts.

Maybe he has hidden them so he doesnt have to lie? He hasnt hidden them very well tho so maybe he doesnt see it as such a big deal.

Its horrible and unsettling isnt it, but talking is the only way to find out the truth. Will you talk at the weekend maybe?

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VerySuspicious · 17/09/2008 11:41

Yes the Lovegra could be because of the steroids (and my complaining). The thing is, my ex used steroids, and was abusive, and lied to me about taking the steroids because he prioritised his image over the negative affect it was having on our relationship. DP knows I hate lying, he knows all about my experience with men on steroids and in my eyes if he is taking steroids despite the fact that it is likely causing his recent nasty behaviour then he doesn't think an awful lot of me does he? I know it would be logical to have a chat with him about it but I would rather keep an eye on things and wait for proof he is actually taking them before I do anything. The stupid thing is, we have chatted about them, and he agreed they are a waste of money, they make you aggressive and honestly they might give you a bit of muscle short term but then the second you stop taking them it goes. So, really, what is the point? On top of this, we are pretty broke at the moment, there are things I would like to buy for myself but all my spare cash goes on our DS. I just want a normal, happy relationship. Oh, and re: the internet history, good idea, I will have a look. His dad takes steroids though so that's where he would probably get them from if he wa to want them. Good parenting skills there, I know!

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ladylush · 17/09/2008 13:19

A word of warning - steroids can also lead to psychosis.

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VerySuspicious · 17/09/2008 16:40

I know ladylush been reading up on the net and all for a bit of muscle.

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ladylush · 17/09/2008 19:57

If he is doing it, maybe you could show him some literature warning of the dangers. I nursed someone who became psychotic as a result of steroid abuse. He has since had 3 relapses despite not using steroids anymore.

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Blandmum · 17/09/2008 19:59

Does he know that they can shrink your nuts as a possible side effect?

as well as sending you loopy?

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MascaraOHara · 17/09/2008 20:04

another take is maybe he thinks you are off sex so

a) feels he needs to improve his image
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b) intends to give you the lovegra(?) in a drink or something without you knowing.

B of course would be in a stupid, man-not-thought-it-through-properly kinda way where he thinks it might just help get uyou in the mood

or something

aALL sounds very odd. are they really hidden or could he have wanted you to find them?

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VerySuspicious · 17/09/2008 20:58

Mascaraohara, it is all a bit odd I agree, I'm not off sex though- if anything I have been complaining to him about er, his lack of sex drive recently. Maybe he does feel he needs to improve his image. Silly way of doing it though. Diet and exercise would be more appropriate not steroids when you don't even have time for the gym! I think I am being quite paranoid now though- while I was rocking our DS to sleep in the lounge earlier this evening he shut the kitchen door on us. I put DS to bed then come back down and went into the kitchen. He jumped out of his skin and he had the cupboard door open that they are hidden in. He took a plate out though. As soon as he went to bed I counted the pills again- still hasn't taken any though.

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VerySuspicious · 17/09/2008 21:00

Oh, and yes, they are hidden I think. It is the cupboard for DS's food and plates etc. They are tucked at the back in the corner. The only reason I found them is because I was looking for a spare dummy for DS today and climbed on the work surface to have a proper look. Our cupboards are quite high so I wouldn't normally have seen them.

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VerySuspicious · 17/09/2008 21:02

Martianbishop, I doubt he knows of all the side effects- he's not the sort to research things for himself. He does know that they are toxic to your liver and cause mood swings etc, because I have told him this before.

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