I would really appreciate some input on this, I have been going over things so much in my mind I fear that I might be going down the wrong track.
I'm not really sure where to start, but I think firstly I should say that DP and I have been together for 8 years have 3 children and have always had a fantastic relationship, and I do mean really fantastic, which I think is why I'm finding it so hard now things are going wrong.
DP has never been very good at expressing his feelings....well actually that's not entirely true, he can express his feelings of love/happiness very well but if he was upset about something he would always bottle it up. He also had never found showing affection very easy though he did try and it soon became normal to him, lots of hand holding, kissing hugging etc and sex.
Recently it feels to me that all affection has gone he hasn't touched me or kissed me in months, except for a peck on the cheek when he leaves for work and I'm still half asleep, our sex life is non-existant too
This has been upsetting me more and more so a few day's ago I text him to say that I wasn't happy with how things were, and that perhaps we should stay together but be more like friends/co-parents as we work well like that and we do get on so well don't argue etc
Now I will admit that I did say this partly to get a reaction but a part of me did mean it too as it felt like I was living in limbo... always waiting for him to notice me, touch me and then being disappointed when he didn't. He did reply and say that it wasn't what he wanted and that he loved me, then he said did I think it would work, I said yes I thought we could make it work so we were all happy, and that was it! He hasn't mentioned it since! He has been coming home from work and we've been sorting the kids out sorting dinner, watching the tv then sleeping.
I'm so hurt, I know it was my idea but I never thought it would come to this, and despite my thinking that staying together like this would be better for everyone especially the children I just don't think I can do it, the atmosphere is horrible
So I'm thinking of ringing him now while the children aren't around and ending things, I just don't think there's any hope there now, but I would really like to hear peoples opinions on this
Thanks for reading, I'm sorry it was so long, I don't have anyone else to talk to
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Help please! Am on the verge of ringing DP and ending things
immortalbeloved · 15/09/2008 09:52
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.