I've decided my marriage can't go on...fundamentally we despise each other and have very little in common.
But neither of us want to risk screwing up our teenage children by divorcing now.
I've taken legal advice and it is possible to separate while still living together. We would then divorce when they are grown up. Apparently we can separate without taking any legal steps - to gain a divorce, it would be enough to prove we had slept apart, had separate finances etc.
We haven't slept together for ages, so it won't make much difference there!
Does anyone have any experience of this? Can it work out in practice?
I actually think the children would find the atmosphere calmer if we can make a grown-up decision about it - we're either not talking to each other or constantly bickering.
I had a weekend break with just the children recently, and the three of us realised how much calmer and happier we were without him around.
Many thanks in advance for your thoughts.
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Thinking of separating but still living together because of children - can this work?
isitover · 09/09/2008 13:39
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