Earlier this evening I was talking to a friend who lives nearby.
Her husband works away 3 days a week, leaving on Monday morning, arriving back Thursday lunchtime, works form home on Friday.
Basically she thinks he is having an affair, as he has been claiming "overtime" to work away Thursday and Friday (the deal with work is if he has to work away from home on Thurs/Fri then he is paid as an independent consultant at approx double his normal salary for those days). But this has been going on for 2 months and there is no extra salary going into their joint account - she checked today.
He used to get home on a Thurs morning and there was always sex - now there is often none all weekend.
So - maybe he is depressed, staying away from the family as much as possible (they have 2 daughters and a son, dd1 has CP), or he is having an affair, or something else is going on.
She intends to ask him this weekend.
How do I help? I am ridiculously happily married, even 13 years on. How can I be a support to her and her kids? How do I do what I can to help her, if he is having an affair (which she thinks is the most likely option)?
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Weegiemum · 28/08/2008 22:55
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