MIL calls last week - says she's coming to see dd this weekend. We don't get much of a say in the matter as she lives 200 miles away and only comes to see dd when she's visiting friends anyway. so we always have to fit in with her plans. We say, ok great, as we didn't have anything on.
We're currently trying to sell our flat - it's a total nightmare as we have to relocate at the end of August so dp can start his new job. 2 days after we made our arrangements with MIL, our buyer pulls out and all hell breaks loose as you can imagine.
I told dp i couldn't cope with the stress of MIL arriving on top of all this - dp and i will probably be at each other's throats besides everything else. MIL and i have had a terrible relationship ever since she tried to bribe dp into leaving me when i was 3 months pregnant (some of you might remember my rants from previous threads). Let's just say that her occasional visits are stressful at the best of times let alone at a time like this.
So dp has called her repeatedly to try to reschedule since we got the news. She has neither answered the phone, returned his calls or replied to any of his emails.
Today i get a text from my mum, saying that MIL had been calling her about all this. I said 'well that's crazy - you're not our keeper - what does she think she has to gain by calling you?' and my mum agreed. I also raised the rhetorical question of why she couldn't simply return her son's calls or answer his email - again my mum agreed and said she'd just tell her to speak directly to dp if she called again.
I shouldn't be surprised, she's pulled many stunts like this in the past. I understand that she wants to see dd. Why can't she try and fit in with our situation rather than always expecting us to jump at her say-so?
And why the feck won't she simply communicate with her own son, rather than dragging my mum into this (again) when she hardly knows her. My mother has made many friendly overtures to her over the years, and MIL has always turned her down flat. Clearly my mum is not 'her kind of person'. But then whenever she wants something she's pestering her like a small child, regardless of the fact that she's met her once and that was more coincidence than anything planned.
I just can't take this shit right now.
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MIL trouble - again. Wtf is her problem?
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totalmisfit · 11/07/2008 14:27
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