I didn't want to hijack YCBS thread so started this one
I don't want this thread to become a venting one (there is already the stately homes for that) but it may well end up being that!
A couple of things both of you said resonated with me, particularly because they oppose each other, and I often end up in this situation with my mum (not toally toxic at all, but on the toxic spectrum IYSWIM)
Attila - 'you are only responsible for yourself, not her emotions' (OK I paraphrased). Does this oppose that 'standard' reponse to a toxic statement which is 'When you say x it makes me feel y'.
In other words are we not saying that we are not responsible for their emotions , but we expect them to take responsibility for ours when they say or do things?
This is typical of the circular argument my mum and I have and I'm not really sure how to resolve it?
Any thoughts to add to this discussion folks?
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titchy · 16/05/2008 17:47
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