DP and I have been together for about 3 years on and off.The beginning of our relationship was very rocky - we had both just come out of long term relationships and neither of us were really ready to start again if I am honest. Lots of issues for him and me and I also discovered that DP was seeing someone else at the same time as me but he ended it and we worked through it.
Anyway DP decided to go travelling and while I did not want him to go I knew it was something he needed to do if we were going to have any future together.
We stayed in touch regularly and I took an extended holiday to go and see him. Whilst away he told me (finally) that he loved me and wanted to make a go of things and that he wnated to come home sooner than he had planned as he wanted to be with me. We had a fantastic time and he came back for good about 5 weeks after the end of my holiday. During this time we we always on the phone and he seemed to be really missing me.
we've since had a DC and are happy however I stupidly looked throughb his emails and discovered that for the last few weeks of his trip he spent a lot of time with a girl he met. The emails are quite flirty but there is nothing in them to say that it went further than friendship BUT I only found these emails through looking at his sent items - he has deleted them from his in box but all of the rest of his emails from when he was travelling are still in his in box. This makes me very suspicious.
I can cope with the fact that he probably met other girls whilst travelling and things may have happened but not after we had decided to make a real go of things. After all if he could do it then whats to stop him from doing it again?
Part of me thinks I should forget about it, after all he came back to me but I wnat to know what happened and I'm afraid it will eat away at me until I do. But then I will have to admit that I have been reading his emails.
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Help - should I confront DP? Sorry long
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cantstopchecking · 29/04/2008 20:18
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