My DH, who now that I think about it has always needed quite alot of attention (what bloke doesn't?) has given me the silent treatment all night last night and this morning, and when I questioned why this morning got told that he was sick of being my lowest priority. I didn't really know what to say! He pointed out that:
first fiddle is our two small boys, 3.7 and 21 months
second fiddle is our house which I keep immaculate (incl all housework and washing which in this house never ends)
third fiddle is my rather high pressure sales job, three days a week
He also pointed out that I get VERY excited about my social life with a large number of other busy mums, we get together for dinner regularly, and I love organising it, booking the venue, sorting the menus, etc. I also go out MUCH more than he does, but never more than about twice a month. But then I am asleep on the sofa by 9.30pm every night I am in with him because I am so knackered.
He also didn't understand why I was so aghast at a friend's confession that she and her partner never have sex, when we only have sex once a week. Whereas I think that's quite alot!
He has lots of good points to make, he does fall down the priority list a bit, but there is only so many ways I can stretch myself, and I try to make him feel loved and appreciated, bloody hell I'm not super woman.
What do you think?
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Anyone else's DH playing 4th fiddle and not liking it very much?
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TheGoddessBlossom · 29/04/2008 07:12
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