I am only a third of my way through this book and already it is turning my life around..... I never normally go for self help books or read them a bit and think..... what a load of rubbish. However recently my brother (who is screwed up like me but in a slightly different fashion) suggested I was a relationship addict...... which in very basic terms relates to women or men who pick the wrong partners to try fill a gap they grew up with in their life. I had a very controlling and unloving mother and a very passive yet aggressive father. Basically I grew up with no unconditional affection and I had to perform to their standards to get any positive feedback at all. I am now choosing men that are screwed up so I can try fix them..... then they will love me more than anything in the world...... it never works like that though!!! IN THE PROCESS OF TRYING TO FIX THEM i HAVE DESTROYED ALL MY CONFIDENCE, SELF ESTEEM AND DIGNITY BY DOING ANYTHING TO TRY MAKE THEM HAPPY.....My last relationship very nearly brought me to my knees and it is only now after nearly a year that I can really see my life ahead being happy and better than ever...... and there is no man on the scene. My dd is 6 and I am determined to do things differently with her than my parents did with me. I am a teacher by profession but have shamed the family by taking an assistants job so i can be there for my dd more and sod the lack of money it is just not important. See my other messages if you know how to search for them.... old nickname was Majormug!! WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM ANY OTHER RELATIONSHIP ADDICTS OR ANYONE WHO HAS READ THIS BOOK THAT CAN TELL ME THEIR STORIES OR OFFER ADVICE. TA!!!! XXXX
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sparklycheerymummy · 28/04/2008 23:51
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