Normally I'm really okay with it. It's not ideal, but I can't change her, so I have changed my reaction to her. If she doesn't want to be close then I don't expect her to be. Fine.
But my defences are so low and right now I really do care. It's my due date today. My mum hasn't called me for a chat in over 3 weeks. That's a bit odd, isn't it? Then, last night the phone rang - it was my dad. After we'd chatted for a while he sort of forced my mum onto the phone - we chatted about nothing for a minute or two, she asked when my due date was (she doesn't even know!) and then said she'd better go and "let me get on". Speaking to both parents took less than 8 minutes.
Afterwards I felt really silly - I was gabbling trying desparately to tell them how dd's doing and how I'm doing and stuff and they were just trying to get off the phone.
I don't care if I'm boring, they're my parents - can't they fake interest for one fucking phone call a month?
So now I'm feeling a bit silly and needy, but also confused and angry that I'm made to feel this way when really all I want is for my mum to give me a call now and then and ask after me.
I do call them usually, but then sometimes I get stroppy and think why do I bother? And when we do chat it's all about them.
Am I expecting too much?
How can I care less?
I can't make them care so I need to alter myself in some way.
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Tell me how to stop caring that my mum doesn't care.
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PengTheMerciless · 16/04/2008 12:05
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