I'm not sure what to write because I have so many feelings and emotions going round in my head right now. Had another row with DH and am hating this relationship. Desperately know we have to sort things out but can't see any way through.
Background: brother in hospital because very ill with cancer. Two children under two. Need to move and finding the hunting stressful. Broke up a few years ago and lived apart for 8 months and haven't talked about that time. He has a very weird and cold relationship with his family which I can't relate to at all but gets very defensive and angry whenever I try to talk about it with him/help him talk about it.
I just feel that we are becoming more and more distant from one another, and both of us are at the stage where we make an effort because that is what you do, not because of love or desire or even because we care particularly about the other person. When I try to talk through things with him it becomes a horrible row and he blames it on 'the amount of stress' I'm under, never talks rationally or sees his place/responsibility in the argument. I'm fed up with it, I'm exhausted, I'm emotional and I'm desperate for us to be ok. But we're not. He holds me at arm's length and doesn't allow me to get close.
Sorry, this is long and rambling but I'm really despairing.
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Despairing. Sorry, this is long and probably doesn't make much sense
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EmilyBronte · 02/03/2008 21:11
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