Dh and I are separating (he is going to move out for six months) following a fairly protracted stressful period, plus some longstanding 'stuff' coming to a head.
He doesn't want to divorce - the thought of this being absolutely 'it' scares him and he maintains that his ideal is for us to be together again, and happy. However, he doesn't want to work on what went wrong now. He wants six months' space, and then to look at whether or not we'd want to try again, anew I suppose. I can live with this in a way - a breather could be helpful - BUT ...
He isn't prepared to commit to not seeing other people during these six months - 'it isn't realistic'. But I feel that doing so would simply create more emotional hurdles to get over, should we try to reconcile. Is it even reasonable of me to expect him not to see other people, if we are indeed separated?
I'm confused. It feels as though this isn't a separation with a view to divorce, nor a separation with a view to reconciling. I'm feeling disorientated, and don't know quite where to 'place' myself, mentally and emotionally.
Help? Rules during separation, if any - especially in relation to sex with others?
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Dh and I are separating - not with a view to divorce, NOR reconciliation - yet. Am confused. Is dating acceptable?
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ALittleBitOfWhatYouLike · 29/02/2008 17:53
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