I have posted here just recently about my situation, dh and i separating after several years of barren marriage because I met someone else. We have two ds 15 and 12. The situation is that our marriage is over and I don't want to be with dh in future, I would have left before but stayed for boys. I don't want to live with this new person for all sorts of reasons and I would set up home by myself I do work and could get a house and would want the boys to come with me but dh wants them to stay in family home which he would keep and is the only home the boys have ever known. Problem is ds1 is completely devastated at the split, he has had a really stable and happy upbringing and sees me leaving as the end of the world. Both DS and DH know about new partner and are all equally devastated about it. DH suggested I stay in the family home for next few years, living separately (i have moved into spare room) and keep the family together and to enable him to keep his job which he values. He says he would have to give it up if i left, to look after boys. My dilemma is this - with work and being at home all weekends, I have always looked after the home and family 24/7 I would never see my new partner - and DS1 and DH have made it clear I can't see new partner while living at home.
So what do I do - I don't want to leave boys and would gladly take them with me but I think everyone is agreed it is best for them to stay with their father but I can see my life becoming a half life like this - has anyone had a similar situation?
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Is it ever acceptable for a mother to leave the children when separating
yellowmellow · 17/02/2008 16:16
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