Me and my mum didn't used to have a great relationship but we have come closer over the past few years and now see each other around twice a week. Thing is, we have nothing in common and its starting to show.
If I phone her to tell her something I feel is important she gives a quick "oh right" and then starts rattling on about stuff she thinks is important, usually stuff to do with the house (i.e. "I've changed those red curtains to the blue curtains and moved that sideboard a few inches to the left and it makes such a difference....!) etc.
She also has a tendancy to go on and on and on about the past which often involved repeating the same stories over and over again. One story inparticular I swear she has told me around 30 times. I'm different, I like to talk about the present and the future.
Today I tried to engage in conversation by telling her how nervous I was about my karate grading (coming up soon) and she gave an uninterested "oh" and changed the subject to stuff like "remember that dog you used to have?"
I tried again by telling her that my university assignment was late and that I was worrying about it and again she just said "oh" and changed the subject. I told her I didn't know what course to do next and she tried to act interested by saying "are they all really hard? i dont know much about them" but I could tell she wasn't really interested.
I suppose I feel it more at the moment as I have no other adult to talk to about stuff. Nobody is interested in the karate (fair enough, its not everyones cup of tea) but I just feel like I have nothing in common with anyone which makes me feel a little isolated.
Does anyone else have this kind of relationship with their mum?
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Me and my mum have NOTHING in common
MrsSnape · 04/02/2008 16:29
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