The last straw....officially hate STBE H

[greeneyedgirl]

I have also posted this on lone parents. I can't take his crap anymore and REALLY balled him out over the phone. Am thinking this is the end of our "amicable" relationship, but i just can't grit my teeth any longer.

He contacted me to tell me that it was MY fault that he is paying so much to his solicitor for the divorce because I keep changing circumstances (i.e was working last yr, got fired, then unemployed, then I had to temp over Christmas so I could pay for DD's pressies etc, job-hunting again). He says that if the divorce takes much longer and especially if my circumstances "change" again (so i guess i better not get a job then) he will not continue with it. He also reckons that he wants to claim from any "spare" money I may have for his solicitors bills. I live with my parents as I am broke and the little bit of cash I do have, I am using this to live on whilst I find a job!

The thing is, and I confronted him with it, he has borrowed TWICE the amount he can afford (apparently he had no choice)! He has a new, designer flat that cost LOADS. He says he bought it so DD could have a room, but she now sleeps in his bed as he has lodgers to pay for the mortgage. He went on a luxury 3 week holiday to Cuba last yr AND stopped maintenance payments from June-Nov, then begged me for money cos he was broke (I gave him £500). He says that he will eventually grow resentful of me as I am costing him so much money, so i lost it and told him NEVER to contact me again about the divorce which he took very badly.

He does not like me that much as he wanted us to get back together over the new year and I said no. He sent me loads of insulting texts, but still I let him get away with it. But now i can't take it anymore, I have tried so hard to be nice to him for DD, but I HATE him and want no further contact with him. He always manipulates things that have happened and tries to turn it all round to be my fault. Please tell me I am not going to ruin my DD's life because I don't have the patience of a saint.

Very, very upset!

[1sue1]

Oh he sounds like a right nob. Just like my ex actually. Selfish, completely and utterly selfish. Cannot see anyones pov but their own, not even their kids.

If I were you, I would tell him that until he can speak to you with respect, and, with your childs best interests at heart, he can fuck right off.

And no, you are not going to ruin your daughters life. He is the one who will have a neg impact, if any, NOT you.