Hi everyone.
I whinged a whinged when my sister totally ignored me when i got pregnant. She and her DH didn't speak to me for 3 months and I talked about it a lot on here and got very good advice. Then she got pregnant with twins so she saw fit to speak to me again.
Anyway, things had improved loads and we'd been getting on well. Until today.
We're both teachers- she's full time and I'm part time because I'm still training. I asked mum a few months ago what was happening about childcare, as I knew my sister had been whinging that mum would be looking after my baby.
That's not the case because DPs family are all desperate to play a part too, and I'm only working part time anyway as I want to spend as much time as poss with babba. However, i do want my baby to be able to spend a morning or two a week with my mum as she's an AMAZING mum and I want him to have one to one time with his nana.
So today i find out she wants my mum to look after her twins the full five days a week that her and her DP work, when they are born, a couple of months after my baby is due.
This means that if my baby was to go and see his nana while I'm working, there will always be two slightly younger babies there being looked after. Which i feel is too many for her to look after anyway as it's not fair, she's already raised her own 3 children.
This means that not only will I not be able to have my mum (the person i am most comfortable with looking after him) looking after my baby, but I will have to send him to DPs mum, auntie (who's like DPs 2nd mum), sister, or maybe a baby group at the college (only if it's good- if not, he can just got to DPs family for the 12 hours a week I'll be working).
I just think it is sooooooooooooo selfish. She acts as though my baby's totally unimportant or doesn't exist anyway, when he is the single most important thing in the world to me and DP. My mum is really excited about my baby coming and she wants to spend time with him- but I just cannot see how it will work.
At the weekends, my dad and brother are at home so it's not the same. Plus my DPs off some of the weekend so we'll be visiting people, doing family things etc etc.
I'm just really put out. And I find her to be so selfish.
But what can i do??
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Mum and sister again. V fed up.
Mumblesmummy · 26/01/2008 22:35
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