Still have feelings for ex -dh!

[Mrsanon]

Sorry name change for this!!

DH and I split up 2 yrs ago after 6 years. We have 2 DCs (7 + 5). There was no big bust up, no afair, things just weren't working. It sounds a really lame reason to end a marriage, but we decided to go our separate ways. It was my decision to leave.

For the last 2 years I've been pretty happy on my own with the kids. Im independant, I like my own space. I've enjoyed doing what I went when I want.

We've still seen a fair amount of each other with the kids. I go to his for dinner on a fairly regular basis, and he comes here and spends time with the kids a couple of times a week. We chat, have a laugh, and everything is amicable.

For the last year/18 mths hes been in a new relationship. I was a bit jealous if Im honest, but never let this onto him. I found out a few weeks ago that they had finished, and am ashamed to say I was pleased!

Since then he has been obviously flirting with me, and I back wit him. He's been coming around more often to 'see the kids', and I've been looking forward to his visits. I keep finding myself day dreaming about him - I feel like a flamin school girl!!!! Without being procosious (sp?) I know he would have and wants me back.

He's a decent, honest bloke. He's a good dad (the kids would be over the moon if we got back together) and I could do alot worse. Although it all seemed masive then, I don't think there was anything wrong with our marriage that we couldn't have sorted out if we'd sat down and talked about it (not a talent for either of us!). That said theres alot of water under the bridge, we are both still the same people, if it didn't work last time who says it will work this time, and we could spoil the friendship we have now if things go wrong.

I don't know what to do!!!!

Honest opinions appriciated.

[warthog]

i'd enjoy it and see where it leads.

try to remember exactly why you split up, and think about whether you can really sort those problems out.

[Surr3ymummy]

It sounds like it's worth seeing whether it would work. However as you rightly say, the kids would be over the moon, but that would also mean that if it doesn't work out, then they'd probably be devastated. For that reason I'd be inclined to hide it from them at least initially until you have a clearer idea of how you both feel.

It would also be worth considering counselling - to talk through the issues that caused you problems last time, and to understand both your reasons for wanting to try again.

good luck, I hope it works out for you..

[allgonebellyup]

ooh this would be my dream come true! go for it!
my ex and i also split for exactly the same reasons, ie not much, and now he is having a baby with someone else i hate myself for ending it all.
i find myself checking my phone constantly to see if hes texted me, and making sure i look presentable when he turns up to see the kids. He doesnt notice me though, hates me too much for ending our marriage.

Good luck!!!