My partner and I split up a few months ago. We'd been together for 11 mostly happy years, and have a lovely little boy. If we didn't have our son, I think we'd let the relationship go indefinitely - we'd had an horrendous year preceeding the split. And my ex has one or two longstanding niggles (mostly in the grass-is-greener vein) which haven't gone away and need to be explored/dealt with. So time apart, for now or forever, is probably a good thing ...
BUT, my gut feeling is that, because we have a child - and encouraged by the fact that we still love each other and have had a mostly happy, if somewhat feisty, relationship - we do everything we can to make our relationship work again before writing it off. But this isn't happening. Ex-dp is open to checking in in a few months to see if there's scope for us getting back together, but he's very "I'll see how I feel at the time" - blaze - about it. I think we owe ds - all of us - a more serious, concerted effort.
Pleading, pressuring, obliging a partner into staying is never pretty and rarely successful. And I don't want ex-dp to come back and feel he is "making do" with me. But I won't simply stand back and let our family come apart either. What's the self-respecting middle ground? What can I do, on my own, to satisfy myself that I'm doing everything I can to revive our relationship and family - without undignified begging?
Thanks, ladies.
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Don't want to beg ex-dp to come back, nor simply let family come apart without a fight. What's the dignified middle ground?
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MoreHoumousPlease · 22/01/2008 12:08
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