When my son was born it was kind of a running joke that he was "ugly". Not in a horrible sense and I realise how horrible it sounds but he had a big head, big ears, big eyes and to me he was gorgeous, funny and cute, everyone else thought so too except they added "comically ugly" to it as well
Anyway DH's brother began calling him "golum" (creature from lord of the rings) and it didnt bother me, I just took it as a laugh.
Then when he was a toddler it continued, the brother would always say "hi Gollum" or "want a drink Gollum?" etc...it became so natural to him that I stopped even reacting at all.
Anyway we havnt seen the brother for ages and my son is now 7. Today we went down to swap presents and brother was there and when he saw son he said "alright Gollum!" and DS just looked confused and smiled. He's an intelligent boy and he knows when people are taking the piss so he wasnt over joyed to begin with but the Gollum thing continued ALL DAY and in the end DS said "why do you keep calling me Gollum?" and DH said "cos you're ugly!"
I got annoyed at told DH to pack it in and DH realised what he'd said and tried to explain to DS that he wasn't really ugly, it was just a silly nickname he had when he was a baby but DS asked why he had that nickname to begin with and the brother said "cos when you were a baby you looked like Gollum from Lord of The Rings".
I'm really annoyed at them both, DS seemed quite offended by it all and I think the only reason he hasnt remained upset is because he's excited about christmas. Obviously he's not ugly and his features have totally changed as he's grown up so DH says I'm being too sensitive and "all you have to do is look at him to know he's not ugly!" but surely thats hardly the point?
Would I be a killjoy to ask them to knock the nicknames on the head? I'm all for having a laugh and can laugh at myself and am not normally sensitive but telling a child they're ugly??
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Aminal · 23/12/2007 20:02
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