Sometimes the rejection is too hard to take

[wirral]

This is a loooong story.

Two years ago I went abroad with work for a week. Leaving behind my husband and 6 year old daughter. On my return my husband was very withdrawn and moody. This meant that we had numerous conversations around the festive period along the lines of 'What's wrong?' and sometimes ' If you're this unhappy perhaps you should leave?'. The upshot of this was that he eventually left mid January. About 3 days after leaving I received a text message from him, clearly not meant for me ' Hello gorgeous.I hope you got some sleep? The offer still stands for tonight XxXxXxXxXx'.

We're now divorced and he has a house not far away and has fought me tooth and nail regarding access to our daughter. Things have now settled down on that score.

My point is that other than that one text he does not appear to have left me for anyone else. He just doesn't like me.

This is so hard to take

[jennypenguin]

Poor you wirral
Was anything wrong before you went abroad?

[wirral]

Ah - someone who can't sleep either??

No not that I was aware of. I didn't think we were fabulously happy but we were the type of family who did lots together. Ex worked shifts and I work fulltime so we shared lots of the childcare together.

I am being pathetic and really just need to move on. It's just that sometimes I get a bit fed up.

My real problem is that I don't know what the boundaries are now. There is a temptation to invite him round etc but I stop myself because at the end of the day he didn't want to be with me

[jennypenguin]

I work nights so i actually have a good excuse tonight!
Most nights i don't sleep too well cos xh left 3 months ago and nights are when i can't stop my mind from working overtime wondering what i did that was so bad.
Did you ask him about the text?

[wirral]

Ah. Poor you re ex leaving. You are kind to answer me. I don't think I was that interested in anyone else's problems when I first split up.

I suspect that you didn't do anything so bad although I don't know your story. Have I just read that your ex's new gf is pregnant? That must be really difficult to accept. However I would say that at least you have a reason for him leaving you. He felt that life with new gf in for some reason better. The grass is always greener syndrome. A bit shallow and no doubt time will prove otherwise. If I were you I'd just sit back and be dignified. He's a bit of a plonker getting himself in this situation so soon after leaving you. I suspect a better person will come along for you

I did ask about text but he just said that she was a friend.

[jennypenguin]

Knowing that others have problems kind of helps me (is that really selfish?)
No my exs gf isn't pg at least as far as i know but he has got a gf, from before he left so yes i do know the reason he left. Although he still claims it's cos i'm bossy, a bully, been sponging off him for years (earning less and working less hours but also doing 100% housework and childcare) nothing to do with the fact he was shagging someone else!
One of my friends has told me that x was jealous because i am so gorgeous, clever, funny etc and he just couldn't cope with not being good enough for me!
Not true, but a nice sentiment!
Maybe that is why yours left.

[wirral]

Sorry jennypenguin - just realised that it's not you whos ex's gf is pregnant.

Am off to bed now before I get myself even more confused. Hope you're work goes ok. Thanks for replying xx

[jennypenguin]

Sleep wellx