Help me!
I'm in a relationship which over the last year and a bit has broken down. Part of the reason for this is my addiction to snooping on my DP.
Due to other dominating inluences in our life last year, we were unable to devote as much time to each other as we once did and because of DP spending so much time on the computer (mostly dealing with important business), when I noticed the internet history being regularly deleted, I got suspicious.
I must stress at this point that
a) I had never previously been suspicious, possessive or paranoid etc. and
b) DP had never done anything to damage my trust in them. However, I now know that this is the event that ruined me.
All I discovered upon looking further was that a couple of XPs had been googled or searched for in Friends Reunited, but because we'd had little time for each other, I felt a little insecure that my DP was showing an interest in someone else, but barely even looked at me when home together.
Worried that we were drifting apart, I asked about deleting the history, to which DP initially denied, then blamed our DD, then the computer playing up. Having expected a simple, if slightly embarrassed explanation and for that to be that, I then started wondering was there more to this than I was initially woried about. (Can you see where this is going?)
Fast forward that year and a bit and we're still no further from DP being furious about having privacy invaded and me, as a result, still feeling well, if there's nothing for me to worry about, why the privacy?
Long intro and obviously there's more, but has anyone else got caught up in a destructive cycle of snooping & mistrust and how did you break the cycle?
Thanks in advance.
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stockCUBE · 12/12/2007 17:02
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