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Found viagra in my husband's bag

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confuseddd Mon 03-Dec-07 23:03:04

I've changed my name for this. As it says, I found viagra in his rucksack. It could be really old of course, but to my knowledge, he's never used it with me. Might he have used it on his own, or does it mean he's seeing someone else?

ANyone else had a similar experience. He's mid-40s, we're newly married and I thought we had a great time in bed... confused.

madamez Mon 03-Dec-07 23:11:02

It's possible he has a bit of performance anxiety and doesn't want to let on (blokes in their 40s are prone to this). So he could be sneakily popping a pill before jumping into bed with you. I wouln't assume he is up to anyone else without more evidence than this.

Maybe you do have a great time in bed. Maybe he just needs a bit of help. Maybe you can carry on having a great time and it's all fine. Could he be glad to have it out in the open so to speak, especially since you're clearly happy in that department. It doesn't mean he's seeing someone else but I can appreciate the shock for you. But if it's good so far, doesn't mean it has to change, does it?

confuseddd Mon 03-Dec-07 23:14:25

Oh hadn't thought about that. It's difficult to bring up with him as they were hidden and I found them.

CloudAtlas Mon 03-Dec-07 23:15:19

maybe he has used it with you??? The erection doesn't go away, even after ejaculation, well not much anyway.

confuseddd Mon 03-Dec-07 23:16:48

No Peaches - doesn't have to change, but I'm worried now he has a secret life to go with his secret pills.

confuseddd Mon 03-Dec-07 23:19:07

That does sounds familiar CLoudAtlas - sorry if tmi. But why not just tell me? Would you tell him you'd found them if it was your dh?

madamez Mon 03-Dec-07 23:22:06

It depends a bit on why you were looking in his rucksack in the first place. Were you emtying it to wash or something? Or are you a bit of a snooper?

As to why he didn't tell yu, a lot of men are very sensitive about their performance nd wouldhate to have t discss it.

How long have you been together? I'd be disappointed if DH hadn't told me, but I guess it's not the easiest thing to talk about for many men. And maybe if the relationship started that way, it would have been increasingly difficult to mention it as the relationship grew.

CloudAtlas Mon 03-Dec-07 23:23:27

OH took some for fun so don't really know how I'd feel in your circumstances. I expect it is something he feels really sensitive about though so guess you should tread carefully, especially if viagra is helping you guys have a fab sex life. I think I would mention it though, not until you've had time to think it through though. Good luck. You're a lucky girl really. He's obviously keen you have a good sex life!

confuseddd Mon 03-Dec-07 23:24:45

i snooped. trying hard not to. i should just put it back and not mention it? Oh it never helps to know this stuff does it...

madamez Mon 03-Dec-07 23:28:26

Hmmm, CDD. Were you snooping because you already have suspicions that he's up to something? Of course, his suspicious behaviour could be because he's, frankly, worried about his willy. A lot of men really hate the thought of having to admit that their performance isn't quite what it was, and it might all be down to that.

confuseddd Mon 03-Dec-07 23:29:00

omg peaches - I don't think he's been using it all along - flippin hope not. I'm giving up snooping. Hope he will just come out and tell me at some point

Sorry, don't want to shock you any more. I'm just making it up as I go along. smile

Having said that, so what if he has?!

confuseddd Mon 03-Dec-07 23:32:31

he did say he wanted some brushed cotton pyjamas for xmas and that he thought he was getting old - maybe he is sensitive about it? Men are so inscrutable sometimes.

You worn him out? wink

Inscrutable a very good word for this time of night. <nods appreciatively>

confuseddd Mon 03-Dec-07 23:39:41

Talking about cosy pyjamas - going to put away the viagra and get the zzz in x

Unknown2016 Fri 29-Jan-16 19:05:38

Hi all,

My partner admitted he needs Viagra even though prior to our daughter our sex life was amazing.

Since our daughter was born our sex life changed from several times a week to once a week and now it's months in between. I put it down to his issues and asked on several occasions if he's got the tablets. He said he hadn't but was getting them.

He was out and when tidying up I found a packet hidden in his shoe, this is the second time I've come across them in a month or so although there has been nothing between us!

I feel extremely unwanted and need to know if it's me he has the problem with or is there more to it???

Any comments??

AnyFucker Fri 29-Jan-16 19:09:32

I think you should start your own thread. This one is from 2007.

goodnightdarthvader1 Fri 29-Jan-16 19:44:04

Agree with AF.

People, when you jump on old threads, posters respond to the original OP, not your newer post.

DragonsCanHop Fri 29-Jan-16 21:38:24

I now want to know if the OP is still having great sex with or without Viagra

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