I was sexually abused as a child by a family member which continued for years. Firstly because of my lack of understanding, and when I was old enough to fully understand what was happening, because I knew my parents (mainly my mother) would say I was lying. I eventually got the courage at age 10 to put a stop to it but within this time, I had many failed attempts of suicide which my family never knew of.
10 years on and I met my mothers side of the family for the first time. I grew very ill and rather than staying to look after me, my mother was more concerned about going shopping with her friends. Because of my vulnerable condition (and the fact that I was in a foreign country) my uncle took advantage of me and sexually assaulted me. I was traumatised-never thought lightning could strike twice.
The truth got out when we returned home and my mother immediately called me a liar.
Now they've finally acknowledged that something happened (only because someone else confessed he'd also abused them) but they still say the 1st incident from my childhood is fabricated-"how could anyone keep a secret for that long".
The worse thing is, I don't hate my abusers, I hate my mother for abandoning me and not doing what a good parent should which is protect their child. There are other issues from my childhood which don't help. Mental abuse-me being the black sheep of the family, the liar, the ugly one etc.-mainly all said and done (or at least encouraged) by my mother. When I finally told me about my failed suicide attempts she laughed and said she'd ensure all the knives in the house were kept sharpened from now on whenever I come round!
Everytime I talk to her now I feel hatred welling up inside me and I know it's awful but I don't feel like I can ever forgive her. I feel really confused because at the same time, I want her desperately to take notice of my child who they all completely ignore. I just feel like a child again, begging for some attention and I hate them all for it.
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I think I genuinely hate my mother-can't help it!!!
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killingmesoftly · 04/11/2007 21:09
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